Sep 20, 2012
Patience is indeed a Virtue
Today was nothing special, except a realization that sprung in mind. I've been contemplating about it for a couple of days now, trying to diagnose this annoyance that I've been feeling since i felt it.
And it hit me,
It's alright for me to do/take favors, mind you, It's one of the things that makes me happy -- being able to help others by doing their simple requests. But sometimes these favors are beginning to be frequent.
I've notice that these past weeks some favors that are ask of me is beginning to soundl like obligations, which is not really how it works .. EVER. I't not like I owe them my life (except maybe my mom and people who actually did save my arse for most occasions) for me to cater to each and every request of goodwill.|I also have the right to choose what kind of favors I'll be taking and have the right to say NO to the ones that I feel, other than being a hassle, wouldn't benefit me at all. It doesn't hurt to add a sprinkle on top on the "please(s)". But some(most/you) forget that, and asks a favor as if it's my job to do them... for FREE. There's a thin line between asking a favor and BOSSING PEOPLE AROUND. okay, I kind of lost my temper there. Anyhow, I remember Inno Sotto saying in one of the rare talks that he did during my SoFA days that we should never do anything for FREE just for the sake of "exposure". If it's not gonna go out with a Bang! then might as well save your fireworks for Hogmanay.
Patience is a virtue -- It finally makes sense to me now. And I hope you get the hint too.
I'm not saying NO, just ask me nicely/kindly/bribe me and I will mostly comply with my most courteous OK.
Tell me something that will make me, at the least, feel that the favor you're asking me to do would be benefitial for me too, maybe not in a form of matter but by that butterfly-in-my-stomach feeling you can give me by saying "PLEASE WITH A CHERRY ON TOP! I PROMISE TO GIVE YOU A PRESENT IF EVER YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL WITH MY REQUEST" and I will reply with "k."
KIDDING. In all honesty, I will most likely say "Kahit wag na. Anokaba!" (You don't have to. Anokaba!).